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Take a deep breath, and count with me s-l-o-w-l-y:
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Congratulations! You are now somebody.
All too often we look to others for approval. We look to others to validate ourselves, our decisions, and our lives. But really what do other people’s opinions matter? Who can validate your existence?
No one.
Even though we know this, is this how we are living out lives? How many of our actions are motivated by the desire to gain approval of others? From the house we choose to the clothes we buy, how many times did you choose them so you that could get recognition from others? How many times do we stop ourselves from growing because someone else said it was a bad idea?
Wanting to impress others is not necessarily a bad thing. The problem is that by putting your own value and your own self-worth into the hands of others, you are leaving yourself at the mercy of other people who are often too pre-occupied with their own lives to care about yours.
All those people starting from our parents to our bosses, spouses, and sometimes even our children; we want them to approve of us. And when you don’t gain that approval, you start to feel like a nobody.
But the key to realizing that you are somebody is realizing that to the majority of people in the world you are nobody. There are billions of people out there who have no idea who Carlon Haas is. And truthfully, they don’t care who I am, as I don’t impact their lives at all.
The same goes for you. There are billions of people who have no idea who you are.
But what about the people that you impact each and every day?
To them, you do matter. To them, you are somebody. And if you are a parent, you are everything to that child.
This lesson really hit home to me when I was standing in line outside a club waiting for the doors to open to a party at SXSW.
Here I was, standing here outside with a bunch of other people, waiting for an hour. It was supposed to open at 9:00 and now it was 9:45!
Why was everyone waiting? Because the “VIPs” hadn’t made it there yet.
And I guess they figured I wasn’t so important to be let in. They figured it was OK to let me stand around for an hour. Why not? I’m not a VIP or anything, am I? That’s when I let it out. I was angry and some people were looking at me like I was nuts. But who deserves to be left standing there. Not me, and not every single person in line.
But you know what the ironic thing was? The VIPs showed up, and I had NO CLUE who these people were. All I knew was that they arrived in a limo and the people at the door thought they were important.
You see, this is my point: we are all somebody to someone. And to others we’re nobody. To the door people, the VIPs were somebody, but if I tell some of my friends who they were (or what company they worked for), they would have no clue who they were.
So, if you ever feel like you are nobody and that you don’t matter, stop for a second and repeat this mantra:
“I’m first name “freaking” last name and nobody but nobody can validate my existence.”
And then, count to 10. You don’t need to become somebody, because you were somebody from the day you were born.
You don’t need someone else’s approval. If you are looking for it, you will always be bound to be disappointed. Your very act of existence validates you; nothing more. Isn’t that great?
You are somebody. You exist. No one can take that away from you. And you’re existence is cause for celebration. Go celebrate it, and be the person you want to be.
Exist more.
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July 16th, 2007 at 9:14 am
This line “you were somebody from the day you were born,” and the rest of your closing comments, really hit-the-nail-on-the-head for me.
…and kudos to you for brining up celebration!! There is every reason we why we can each celebrate ourselves without requiring the permission , or participation, of others.
In fact, as soon as I submit this comment, I’m going to go do some celebrating of my own!!! :o)
July 16th, 2007 at 11:13 am
Thanks or the comments, Prince. Go out and celebrate yourself, my friend. You deserve it.
July 17th, 2007 at 12:00 am
Excellent!
Three thumbs up! OK, if I have three thumbs, I would. But hey, most of you out there, it is a “Two thumbs up” post.
HJ
February 28th, 2008 at 7:36 pm
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