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1. The funny thing about heartbreak is that you get over it sooner or later. Some people may not think it’s funny at all, but sooner or later the feelings you thought would never go away vanish, until you are left with a remnant and perhaps a life lesson.

2. Some feelings seem like they’ll last forever. But this overlooks the fundamental truth of life—change. The greatest gift (and perhaps curse) human beings possess is resilience. The ability to bounce back. That’s what we do. It is what we are. It is in our DNA.

3. Even though we intellectually understand the truth of resilience, we let fear overtake us. Fear of heartbreak. Fear of loss. Yet, loss is a part of life. And heartbreak makes us grow.

4. How many opportunities have you missed because of fear? Did you let heartbreak evolve into cynicism? Did you let someone slip through your fingers who could have brought something new to your life? Did fear cause you to stop when you should have gone forward?

5. Acknowledge resilience. Acknowledge that for every pain we thought would never go away, it eventually did. We get over things. We move on. It is life.

6. Fear of loss is the tool of those who seek to lead you into foolishness. You need not fear loss. Acknowledging the resilience within you will free you from this bond and open the door to possibilities once thought unimaginable.

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Excuse the title, but yesterday, I was tagged by John W. McKenna to answer his challenge to write my views on the current state of leadership. To be honest, I wasn’t going to write anything since I am not a “leadership guy” and because I have no interest in telling other people how to become leaders.

And I don’t buy the whole leader-follower dichotomy that holds the leader 100% responsible for the failings his or her followers. Many things are not in any leader’s ability to control. And I also don’t believe that the human condition has changed oh so much in all these years and the short answer to John’s challenge is that leadership is in the state it’s always been in—a state of flux. No better and no worse than it has been.

But I thought it might be worth it to just to share my personal opinions on leadership and use some of my personal experiences as a guide for those of you out there who are trying to be better leaders.

But I have to say something very important first.

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